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Quality of relationship with surrogate
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“The type of relationship we wanted to have was one of someone who is almost like a family member, but more of like a distant cousin.... it’s more of a sort of distant family member who comes into their lives from time to time.”
“We’re very different people, I mean, you go into this thing and when you talk about surrogacy is... She’ll always be special in our lives, she will always have a place there, we will always remain in contact if she wants too... the way that we’ve always told the story is that they helped but there isn’t any real direct connection to her.”
Child’s relationship with surrogate
• “They love when she comes. They are fond of her and of her sons. She has three sons. They are a little older than our children, obviously. And, um, our children just adore them... All three, they love her. I mean, if she comes, she brings presents, we do something special, we stay up later or we go to the movies, so it is almost like a godparent visits, so, to them it is always like something very special and they love it.”
• “They get along. He is excited when we go down there and then we spend time with her, and her kids he loves. You know, her other kids.”
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